Tuesday, August 10, 2010

Reclaim That Positive Energy Pt 2 - Bring Light & Balance Into Your Life!


Good Afternoon Dream Chasers! - As promised, here is the second installment on how to reclaim that positive energy! If you haven't checked out Part 1, you may do so here. Because of the length of this post, I have also decided to do a 3rd installment later on this week, which will focus more on productivity.

As you make your way down the path to energetic balance, you will start to realize the importance of maintaining a positive energy field around you. Look at the people in your life at this very moment. Are they adding to your life in a positive manner, or damaging to your self esteem, and invalidating you as a person? Friendships/relationships can either be warm and nurturing, or energetically draining.

Any relationship [whether platonic or sexual in nature] that isn't conducive to growth and positivity should be released at once. Instead, choose a path of self-healing, conscious joy, and renewal. You will find that as you do this, you will populate your life with more people along the same astral plane, and your relationships will surely be more meaningful, as you will attract healing and harmonious energies.

Cleaning house has definitely been one of the best decisions I have ever made. When I starting house-cleaning a few months ago, my house got empty pretty fast. However it was also more quiet and harmonious. 

How To Break Away From Toxic Relationships:
You must first identify the relationships. Make a list of all of the individuals in your life, and line by line, name by name ask yourself the following questions:
1. Am I holding on to this relationship because I am used to this person? Is this a co-dependent relationship?
2. Can I trust this person with my innermost thoughts? Are they reliable?
3. Do I like the person I become when I am with them? Do I feel like I can be myself?
4. Is the relationship 50/50? Am I receiving the same as I give?
5. Have I done everything necessary to salvage the relationship.
Also be prepared to let go emotionally! Sometimes this can be the hardest part; as feelings of remorse and guilt has a tendency to draw us back into the toxic relationship. Understand that moving on and completely letting go is a process, so find solace in knowing that letting go of toxic energies is one of the healthiest decisions you can make along your path of enlightenment. Will there be a void there? Most certainly, so fill that void with meaningful activities, and/or individuals that exude joy, love and positivity.

Once you have deemed it necessary to let go of the relationship, you need to follow your inner guidance system to determine the best method of letting go. Here are a few methods:

Refrain From Burning Bridges by Making A Gradual Organic Transition:
Opt for short text message/email exchanges in lieu of long phone conversations
Do not initiate contact
Wait a day or so prior to responding to emails/texts
Control your personal availability to others. When they ask you to hang out, express that you are busy. Stand your ground, and tell them you will let them know when you are available.
The above methods are more of a "letting them down easy" approach, in hopes that they get the message. For relationships that are a bit more serious/complicated, a face to face conversation should occur.

Face To Face:  
Have an honest, non-confrontational conversation with this person about why you want to create a healthy distance.

Beware of manipulators that may try to use old wounds to gain power and favor over you.
Beware of people with low self worth that will be-friend you because you give them a sense of security and validation.


  1. I love this post ! However, the only thing that I would change or suggest thinking about is the first question on #4. (50/50) relationships, are generally ones in which both parties are holding something back due to fear of rejection, hurt, selfishness, or self-preservation. Relationships should be approached 100/100. You can't be responsible for what other people due in a relationship whether it's platonic or romantic. You just have to be authentic in that relationship no matter what !

  2. what a great post. so many people hold on to folks just for the comfort factor or because they've been around for a long time without thinking of if they are truly adding something to their lives and if there is reciprocity. some people just need to be LEFT ALONE and LET GO if a well lived life is ever going to be lived. good questions to ask to get the mind going and really thinking about circumstances and friendships


  3. This is very good advice... We have all been in bad relationships. The best way to get out is to regain control of the relationship.


  4. this post is crazy, especially since my boyfriend just broke up with me today. this totally helps to put things into perspective. Sometimes you know some one for so long and you get comfortable without realizing how toxic things really are.

    Great Post again!

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  6. GREAT POST. just came across your blog :)



  7. this is great, and very conducive to what I'm going through at the moment.

  8. Another great post...I'm in the process of letting go toxic people in my life and I find this post extremely helpful and trying to determine which relationships are worth savaging and those that need to be kept at a distance. Thanks for spreading the positivity...I'm one of your biggest admirers. Have a blessed day!

  9. great post Moptop Maven! I've been mulling a few things over in my head about relationships and this has helped a great deal ;0)


  10. This is by far the best post i have read in a while. This will be a great read to share with my teenage daughter and nieces also. Thanks for posting!


  11. With the concept of positive nergy we can bring light and balance in our life,. Hence try to get this all.

  12. thank U! everyday is a BEGIN! re-started Today...

  13. This post is looking very informative. The key point of this post is its valuable information. After reading this post any one will get some very important points which are only helpful even precious also. I use to visit the post of many different kinds but it is the first time when I am fully satisfied. Now a days people are in to the habit of making posts. I think it would be a good inspiration for them.

  14. Hiya loved the post and will definately use the knowledge you have eloquently provided- thank you!
    I have a query could you or anyone else share some insight on what to do if the toxic people are immediate family members? Its harder to break away from family. *


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