Good Afternoon Dream Chasers! - As promised, here is the second installment on how to reclaim that positive energy! If you haven't checked out Part 1, you may do so here. Because of the length of this post, I have also decided to do a 3rd installment later on this week, which will focus more on productivity.
As you make your way down the path to energetic balance, you will start to realize the importance of maintaining a positive energy field around you. Look at the people in your life at this very moment. Are they adding to your life in a positive manner, or damaging to your self esteem, and invalidating you as a person? Friendships/relationships can either be warm and nurturing, or energetically draining.
Any relationship [whether platonic or sexual in nature] that isn't conducive to growth and positivity should be released at once. Instead, choose a path of self-healing, conscious joy, and renewal. You will find that as you do this, you will populate your life with more people along the same astral plane, and your relationships will surely be more meaningful, as you will attract healing and harmonious energies.
Cleaning house has definitely been one of the best decisions I have ever made. When I starting house-cleaning a few months ago, my house got empty pretty fast. However it was also more quiet and harmonious.
How To Break Away From Toxic Relationships:You must first identify the relationships. Make a list of all of the individuals in your life, and line by line, name by name ask yourself the following questions:
1. Am I holding on to this relationship because I am used to this person? Is this a co-dependent relationship?Also be prepared to let go emotionally! Sometimes this can be the hardest part; as feelings of remorse and guilt has a tendency to draw us back into the toxic relationship. Understand that moving on and completely letting go is a process, so find solace in knowing that letting go of toxic energies is one of the healthiest decisions you can make along your path of enlightenment. Will there be a void there? Most certainly, so fill that void with meaningful activities, and/or individuals that exude joy, love and positivity.
2. Can I trust this person with my innermost thoughts? Are they reliable?
3. Do I like the person I become when I am with them? Do I feel like I can be myself?
4. Is the relationship 50/50? Am I receiving the same as I give?
5. Have I done everything necessary to salvage the relationship.
Once you have deemed it necessary to let go of the relationship, you need to follow your inner guidance system to determine the best method of letting go. Here are a few methods:
Refrain From Burning Bridges by Making A Gradual Organic Transition:
Opt for short text message/email exchanges in lieu of long phone conversationsThe above methods are more of a "letting them down easy" approach, in hopes that they get the message. For relationships that are a bit more serious/complicated, a face to face conversation should occur.
Do not initiate contact
Wait a day or so prior to responding to emails/texts
Control your personal availability to others. When they ask you to hang out, express that you are busy. Stand your ground, and tell them you will let them know when you are available.
Face To Face:Have an honest, non-confrontational conversation with this person about why you want to create a healthy distance.
Beware:Beware of manipulators that may try to use old wounds to gain power and favor over you.
Beware of people with low self worth that will be-friend you because you give them a sense of security and validation.