A lot of people wanted a post on my daughter to learn about her hair regimen, maintenance etc. I talked to her last night to see how she felt about making her appearance on my blog and she was thrilled [part of it was because she got to stay up an extra 15 minutes].
Meet Brianna; a super-inquisitive, very talkative, extremely tall nine year old. Brianna maintains a regimen that is very much like her attitude. Very low-fuss. Her regimen includes shampooing and conditioning weekly, moisturizing with Silk Elements Silken Child Moisturizer and sealing with Vatika Oil. At night, her hair is tucked away in a loose bun, and she sleeps on a satin pillowcase.
Brianna's hair is usually styled in two braided pigtails on either side or a low bun. This is less stress on the hair follicles and means less chance of breakage from ponytails holders. Because Brianna is only nine, we have yet to experiment with heat [except for the time great grandma blow-dried her hair *side-eye* lol] but it may be considered in her teenage years. 
[ends are protected and ready for bed]
When do you feel it is appropriate for a child to get their hair pressed?
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Your daughter is absolutely GORGEOUS! And her hair is lovely as well :)Very nice post, thank you for sharing this!
ReplyDeleteWow, like her mom, she is beautiful!
ReplyDeleteYour daughter is BEAUTIFUL. Chapeau to the stunning loving mum. :-)
ReplyDeleteBeautiful! I don't have children yet, but if I should ever have a girl, I don't think I will press her hair in part because I prefer the look of kinky, curly, and wavy hair.
ReplyDeleteShe's absolutely stunning.
ReplyDeleteOmg your daughters hair is gorgeous!
ReplyDeleteI've been natural my entire life and between the ages of 10 and 15 were the hardest for me. I desperately wanted a perm and I rarely had my hair pressed. I started getting my hair straightened regularly (4 times a year) in about 10th grade for special occasions. I'm glad my mother stuck to her guns and didn't allow me to take control of my own hair when I was too young to appreciate how great it was. That being said, I think that the teenage years are a good time to try straightening hair on a more regular basis.
she's adorable & i love that you're keeping it age appropriate. as far as straightening her hair goes, i'd play it by ear and wait until she starts expressing some interest in pressing/flat ironing her hair.
ReplyDeleteWOWWW look at all that hair!!! And secondly, your daughter is gorgeous!!!
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ReplyDeleteOMG your daughter is gorgeous! and she gets her looks from her mom! I think that pressing her hair may mean easier hair care for you, but she may start to think that her hair needs to be altered. But its your call, because pressing isn't like perming so...
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like mother like daughter stunning!!! she is your double! xxxx
ReplyDeleteCUTE, Y'all are both gorgeous, eventually people are going to start mistaking you both for friends instead of mom and daughter lol
ReplyDeleteAs for the pressed hair thing, I would wait until she starts badgering you about it. Maybe make it a treat for her 13 bday if she starts becoming interested around that age. I dunno, I have zip parenting practice and all I have are little bros hah
Aw, what beautiful curls.
ReplyDeleteAs for my opinion on pressing children's hair - I think it's fine for special occasions ( I used to get my hair pressed for Easter Sunday, school pictures, and church sometimes, lol) but not an every week thing.
ReplyDeleteshe is very pretty. Is she mixed race or is she all black?.I would wait until she is 18 and could make choices.:-)LOVE THE BLOG. P.s i have mixed race kids thats why i am asking the question.
ReplyDeleteYou have a daughter?!?
ReplyDeleteShe's beautiful!
Wow I didn't think you were old enough to have a daughter. You both are beautiful. I don't plan on having children any time soon, but I wouldn't want to use much heat until she was a teenager.
ReplyDeleteWOW, her hair is amazing!!!! She is very pretty! You both have very beautiful hair! And I don't have a child yet, so I'm no help there....
ReplyDeleteThank you so much for your Blog! It is awesome! It is so full of very helpful information. You are truly an inspiration to me to take better care of my hair.
Why press it at all ? The natural texture is beautiful that's what we are all here to learn to except. I say help her to embrace that =]
ReplyDeleteADORABLE!!! Thanks for sharing your gifts and your greatest one, your daughter. She is very blessed to have such a multi-talented and positive mom! I wish I would have stay natural until I was a late teen, you keep protecting her tresses and yours.
ReplyDeleteYou have a daughter?!! She is beautiful!! I just want to eat her up! lol She has one cool mom!!
ReplyDeleteDaughter? OK, she is gorgeous, but I had no idea! Well, she has beautiful hair, so I say encourage her to keep it natural. My mom didn't allow me to press my hair or even wear it down until I was in Jr. High. I hated it, but looking back I can see that she was protecting me from myself because as soon as she let me loose, I friend my hair into oblivion. Her hair looks very soft a good blowout seems like it would be just fine.
ReplyDeleteOmg! She looks JUST like you! Same eyes, same nose, same everything! And her hair is beautiful!
ReplyDeleteWell who is this pretty child??!! lol...She looks just like you.
ReplyDeleteI don’t have kids, but until this day. I mother swears that my hair textured changed the day my aunt pressed my hair. Without her knowing..hahaha I sure it was heat damage. I don’t think that I would want to press my daughters hair. At the same time I would want her to make some decisions on her own. My mother wouldn’t let me put heat on my hair when I was younger. As soon as I was able to, I killed my hair with heat..hahaha
ReplyDeleteYou have a daughter?? Oh my she is gorgeous!!! She looks just like you too.
ReplyDeleteWow.. Your so slim and trim.. I had no clue u were a mommy..I say press it maybe for special occasion or school pics. I have to get better organized..u cook, u sew, u work, u freelance, u mommy! terrific!
ReplyDeletegorgeous and we have the same name (its spelled the same and all) I say wait to press her hair until she is older maybe 16.
ReplyDeleteI say let her remain a natural beauty until she's older. At the end of the day your her mom and you have the final say. I wouldn't want to put heat in my daughters hair at such a young age. There are so many styles that they can wear that are cuter than straight styles anyway. :) She's a doll!
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ReplyDeleteYour daughter is gorgeous, curious what is she mixed with?
ReplyDeleteThank you for this post. I always wanted to meet your family. She is so pretty! She looks like an angel.
ReplyDeletePerfect child model
ReplyDeleteShe looks just like you! Absolutely gorgeous!
ReplyDeleteI am literally sitting here with my mouth hanging open. You have a child!? A nine year old at that!? Lady, you are fierce! I swear to you I assumed you were a super young single girl but here you are, a mother/blogger/all around wonder woman. You're amazing, I complain that I dont get enough hours in my day but if you can do it all that must mean I have some hope. She's gorgeous and she looks just like you!
ReplyDeleteawww she's so adorable!!!!
ReplyDeletewhat a pleasant surprise!!!
ReplyDeleteWow, she's gorgeous! And that hair is to die for!
ReplyDeleteShe's beautiful! My future "step" daughter has long beautiful hair like your daughters but her g-ma wants her to PERM her hair to make it manageable. I'm like what!??! I have a feeling one day she is going to visit her granny one weekend and come back with straight hair and I'm going to be pissed but I can't say anything because of that whole "blood is thicka than water" crap!
ReplyDeleteI try my best to show her pics of styles that only her hair can accomplish. She's 10 years old and she even wants a perm...ugh! She asks every single weekend to flat iron her hair because she likes it "long and straight."
Frustrating!
I never knew you had a daughter she is gorgeous! OMG. I want her hair.
ReplyDeleteYour daughter is so pretty and looks just like her mom! =) Her hair is beautiful!
ReplyDeleteAlright, Haute-Mama!! Didn't know your flyness was a mom. She's gorgeous just like you.
ReplyDeleteI have a daughter and unfortunately I relaxed her hair at 6 and regretted it. At 10, (after I BC'd) I transitioned her hair. She didn't like it but I allow her to get it straightened cause at 14 its all about a certain look(for her).
Having said all that, my suggestion is to wait until she is a teenager. The later, the better.
She's gorgeous. But of course she is because your genetics are clearly running all up and through! ;)
ReplyDeleteI don't have any children but if I ever do I think pressing would probably be reserved for teen years, and even then only every once in a while...for the occasional length check and for a quick change a pace if she felt like she just wanted to rock it straight every now and then. Also part of me feels like I wouldn't allow pressing combs in my home, lol. I really have no idea.
Aww, she's beautiful! Thanks for letting us meet her :-)
ReplyDeleteYou'll probably get all kinds of answers on this but I think sometime between 14-15 is a good time to start straightening her hair. As we all know, straightening has its own set of responsibilities and maintenance :) I'd gauge it mainly on her interest and maturity level.
With that said, I don't think there's anything wrong with straightening her hair now for special occasions here and there. Change is fun!
Girl, I didn't know you had a mini-you!!!!
ReplyDeleteAnd I don't know when would be appropriate...whenever they are able to securely hold a gel lid over their ear to protect it, maybe. LOL
what is she?
ReplyDeleteWe FINALLY get to meet her! She is, as many others have said, beautiful! I don't think she would want to do anything to her hair... it's so lush as is, lol.
ReplyDeleteI don't have any kids, but I think I would wait until my daughter is in her teen years before allowing her to perm her hair, if she wanted to.
she is BEAUTIFUL! and congrats on her debut!
ReplyDeletei straightened (flat ironed) both my girls hair at 5. i may occasionally blow dry their hair - like once per year...typically i don't heat style their hair more than 2 times per year.
i think it's very important for my girls to love their hair the way it grows out of their scalps. they love their hair straight, but they also love it "poofy" as my youngest calls it....(you can see them on my YT channel talking about their hair and numerous pics on my blog...)
that's what's so great about having natural hair!
good job mom!
OMG I didn't even know you had a child!! Wow! She looks stunning just like her mom :)
ReplyDeleteYour daughter is a beauty. And yea, I'd wait on the press. My mom started perming my hair at 5, and that took years to break away from. At least if she's older, she can gain more knowledge from you, and she'll be old enough to learn about her hair and how to properly take care of it. Hopefully she doesn't get too flat iron happy like some people I know lOl; but I'll think you'll steer her the right way.
ReplyDeleteShe looks EXACTLY like you, WOW!
ReplyDeleteWow I didn't know you have a daughter but she looks just like you. Pretty girl!
ReplyDeleteShe's so cute!
ReplyDeleteMy mom started pressing my hair when I was like 5. She would only do it every other month and keep it in protective styles in between. As I got older, she pressed it less, like every 6 months, and kept it in braids.
It's all up to you.
It's obvious by most of your comments that you have never "READ" her blog...in her about section she shares that she is a GIVER of LIFE...hint, hint. She's a MOM!
ReplyDeletePeace Moptop Maven:
ReplyDeletewe are all surprised to hear that you have a daughter.thank you for sharing her with us. God Bless you both!
if she mentions it.it would be nice to have a talk with her about it and what it means to press one's hair. i try to avoid altering my child's natural state because they are still developing and i think its best to wait until they are older.
a part of me says that you will not press Brianna's hair until she is of the age to decide for her self.
Great question. its nice to bring in a discussion on natural hair care for the kids. would love to hear some tips on hair care for boys of color.
sending virtual hugs,
haha, I read that "giver of life" line yesterday and I wondered if it could mean a 'mommy' or 'one who is able to give life'... i got my answer today! Beautiful girl!
ReplyDeleteWhat a beauty. She looks like she just stepped out of a Paul Gauguin painting! And she looks so much like you. The same eyes, same cheekbones. I wonder, have you ever tried the tightly curly method on her hair?
ReplyDeleteWe finally got to meet her!! I know I read somewhere here (I think) that you had a daughter. She's gorgeous!
ReplyDeleteBrianna is so beautiful! Ha ha I used to get excited when I could stay up a little later than my bedtime too.
ReplyDeleteMy mom pressed my hair when I was about 7 or 8 to take a picture at Olan Mills. But, I don't remember her pressing my hair other than that. She usually left me and my sisters to fend for ourselves when it came to hair and I never wanted to straighten it. In high school I felt kind of pressured into wearing my hair straight due to negative comments when I wore my afro. I eventually relaxed my senior year of high school (big mistake!) and went natural again my sophomore year of college. So I say no to straightening until college! lol But I'm sure your daughter knows she's beautiful any way she'd wear her hair but, I say wait until she's in the mid teens.
ReplyDeletewow i would of never thought you were a mom u look young girl! she's gorgeous and she looks just like you
ReplyDeleteStraight Hair should be reserved for special occasions !!! I learned the hard way but then again I was in the hair game on my own... Personally ( not from a parental perspective) I think getting creative and encouraging heat free styles is the best way to go, then you wont have to worry about her taking the flat iron into her own hands. Thats where things got disastrous for me.
ReplyDeleteThank you for the official introduction to your baby girl :)
ReplyDeleteI wasn't going to say it, but here goes: Some of the comments in here regarding the child's race and "what" she's mixed with are little much and a bit insensitive to say the least. I mean, does it REALLY matter?
Nik, I would be interested in hearing about how you deal with these kinds of questions..
As long as she doesn't assume that straightening her hair is a means to beauty like many young girls seem to assume. She's surrouded by a very complex culture that send complex messages about beauty. She can stay refined and elegant as she naturally is.
ReplyDeletewhen we first saw small pics of here way back when I was so confused. She looked nothing like you so I assumed you were joking that she is your daughter. But now that I see her upclose she looks like a mini you!!!! SAME smile and eyes. And she has beautiful hair!!!
ReplyDeleteYour daughter, Brianna is beautiful and her hair is gorgeous!
ReplyDeleteits so hard to believe that you have a daughter that is nine years old and you look like youre about under 19. your daughter is beautiful and she looks so much like you. yall are a beautiful family
ReplyDeleteLovely child. Thank you for sharing her with us. :)
ReplyDeleteOMG! You have a daughter??!!?OMG! My jaw just dropped! You look sooooo young and fit! She looks just like you and in her eyes I can tell how smart she is! I wish all the blessings possible to you and your daughter!!!
ReplyDeleteWhat is she mixed with?
In her ABOUT tab, Nikole says she's a giver of life which means she has a child. Well, what I got from it.
ReplyDeleteShe's beautiful. Aww, I love children. There's no need to press her hair, maybe for special occasions. Like when she graduates. You are taking great care of her hair. :)
wow she is very gorgeous!
ReplyDeletei agree with heat for special occasions, if she really wants to and doesnt like curly/twisted formal styles for the particular event.
I know you have read it a million of times now, but she's such a pearl!
ReplyDeleteStarlette
What a doll! You're so blessed!
ReplyDeleteOh, one more thing she definitely has your eyes and smile. Gorgeous.
ReplyDeleteOh-Em-Gee those eyes and smile are all yours. Thats crazy! You inspired me to do a hair post on my little one. India is only 3 but like Brianna, she has a little routine all ready for a head full of hair. Thanks for always inspiring chica!
ReplyDeleteShe is beautiful like her mother.
ReplyDeleteI would not press her hair. It looks fine and may damage it easily. I suggest airdrying and then blowing it dry on low or using a flat iron. Whatever and whenever it is the right time I know you will ensure it is not damaged and is able to revert back to her gorgeous waves.
She's beautiful! I would not press her hair until she's much older. Her texture may be easily damaged. I will be having a daughter next month and I really am serious about no heat and no chemicals until maybe she is old enough to decide.
ReplyDeleteMy little sister, who is mixed, just recently started getting her hair pressed, she just started middle school. This is also the same time i relaxed my hair. It's a middle school thing i guess. I say never relax it and press it on special occasions.
ReplyDeleteand sidenote: I knew you were a mother but i didn't think to a nine year old!!!! You are one fierce mommy! Go girl!
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she's beautiful! and her hair! wow its gorgeous!
ReplyDelete@Anonymous Sept. 30th 6:09 PM, What do you mean by that? @Anonymous Oct.1 5:23AM, I totally agree! BTW, she's beautiful like Mom!
ReplyDeleteI wish some of you all would get off your high horse--obviously some people didn't know she had a daughter. Great for those of you who knew, do you want a " I am a great reader of a blog" award?
ReplyDeleteFurthermore, stop acting like the child is a mutt dog, " what is she?" " what is she mixed with?" questions are ignorant beyond compare.
She is beautiful and I admire your ability to do so much and have an awesome blog for us to enjoy.
personally i don't see anything wrong with the "what is she mixed with questions..."
ReplyDeleteit is a FACT that majority of biracial girls/women are able to grow their hair longer and at a faster rate than girls/women who aren't.
what's wrong with wanting to know if nikole's daughter is mixed? or what she's mixed with?
honestly, i would think that nikole would've anticipated these kinds of questions/reactions before she posted the pics. to me it would've been a better deal to put it right out there from jump...
"...this is my daughter brianna...she's mixed with XYZ and this is how we care for her hair..."
personally, EVERY time i post a pic of my dd i put it out there from jump because even though she doesn't blatantly LOOK mixed (she's not BTW), there is still the ignorant thoughts of people who do not believe that full black american girls/women can have long hair...that's where the ignorance comes in, imho, in thinking that black american girls/women can't have long hair without being mixed with something - NOT wondering if someone is mixed (or what they are mixed with) when they are clearly biracial...
enough...
wow she is adorable! (just like her momma! :)
ReplyDeletetoo cute!! she has a great mom!
ReplyDeleteI will subscribe..I promise
ReplyDeleteYour daughter is presious. I have two girls-both mixed race; i don't know if that is relevant-but they hate to get their hair done unless tricked into getting it done to go to chuckie cheese. As of now I use herbal essence 2 in 1 on their hair and moisturize with an olive oil hair butter for kids every other day.
My eldest is 4 and I'm pretty sure her hair should be alot longer than it is. My youngest is 3 and her hair is a bit longer than my eldest.
I'm not to sure what kind of regimen I should be building with them and if they are too young to have a regimen.
Your posts have helped me immensly with my hair growth. I was natural for awhile but had no routine or real knowledge of how to take care of my hair! your blog is a HAIR SAVER...LITERALLY!!
keep up the great work. Again, your daughter is gorgeous from head to toe!
MelV
She's beautiful - just like her mom! Add me to the list of awestruck people - you are a superwoman! I don't know how you do all you do in a 24 hour day!
ReplyDeleteMy opinion on pressing - save it for special occasions. I wore my hair in french braids all through junior high.
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ReplyDeleteAwww she is precious!! I have no idea how you do it all! I need to step up my game. If you haven't already, maybe you can give us post on how you stay organized on a daily basis.
ReplyDeleteI don't have children but when I was a child, I always had my hair pressed and didn't have any idea how to deal with it in all it's natural glory until I was in my 20's. So, I would use pressing for special occasions and ensure that she knows how to care for her unpressed hair.
Beautiful Daughter!
ReplyDeleteI would never had guessed you have a NINE year old!
And we know your not even tryna pull or legs because she is the spitting image of you!
Ever heard the phrase Yummy Mummy?
Well thats you for real!
Please dnt respond to these stupid questions.
I feel like someONE is arguing with themselves on here to create unnecessary drama.
They should just be grateful you decided to show us your daughter at all.
xoxo
I didn't realize you were a mom. That just blows my mind because that means on top of all the wonderful creative and helpful work you do you take care of another little human. That's awesome. She is so pretty. As far pressing hair hold out as long as you can I like the idea of it being a treat once in awhile.
ReplyDeleteWOW!!! You have a lot of hair to handle between the two of you LOL. She's gorgeous BTW!
ReplyDeleteNikole, I thought you said you had a son. You only mentioned your son Myles in a few posts back.
ReplyDeleteJust wanted to echo those who commend you on being such a super woman (crafting, styling, working, mommying)! I knew you were a mother, but I figured your kids were younger. You've been your thang for a while now. You are a true inspiration!
ReplyDeleteWOW!!! I didn't know you were a mom and with a 9 yr old at that. She is beautiful just like you. Thank you for sharing.
ReplyDeleteWow your daughter is so pretty. She looks just like you. PLEASE!!! dont press her beautiful hair.
ReplyDelete@Lola; No son Lola, one little person is enough!
ReplyDeleteThank you everyone for the compliments!! As for the "mixed" question...is used to bother me in the very beginning [first 1-2 years], but it is something that I have gotten used to over the years. For those of you that asked, Brianna's father is white [Irish].
I will definitely give tips/tricks on how to care for the hair of little boys and girls in the very near future.
Moptop,I think the poster Lola is mixing you up with the artist profiled from the Brace Yourself Boutique giveaway who has a 9 year old son named Myles :D
ReplyDeleteAnd Brianna is cute.
Take care!
OMG! She is so beautiful and that is definitely your little twin. I guess I won't get a best blog reader award either (lol) because I forgot that your About Me section says you're a "giver of life". When I saw daughter I thought you were talking about a pet or something. (please dont stone me!)
ReplyDeleteLastly, you are my she-ro! You seem to balance so much on your plate and keep your creativity and fashion sense in balance. So what's the secret?? LOL
Wow!
ReplyDeleteShe is soooooo pretty!!! You two most definitely resemble, she must get her great looks from her mom ! :)
Her hair is soooo long and healthy looking!
I also agree that waiting until the teenage years is the most appropriate time to put any heat any young person's hair. We are all born with such beautiful hair, especially at birth and on, when the hair is at it's most natural state it will probably ever be in. I think that parent's should teach their children to embrace their natural beauty early on.
She's absolutely adorable.
ReplyDeleteShe is absolutely gorg. Had no idea you had a child.
ReplyDeleteThis is off subject-sorry, but does your friend Lo have a blog? Her hair texture is similar to mine and I wanted to get some info on how she cares for her hair
ReplyDeleteYour daughter is a cutiepie by the way
ReplyDeletewow we finally get to see your daughter. She is totally gorgeous! She looks just like you too.
ReplyDeletewonder what it does for one's welfare to see another individal and inquire they're racial background. Is your life richer when you find out? #mankindcanbefoolish
ReplyDeleteIt may take days before you see this, so many comments! LOL anyways, your daughter's beautiful. I was shocked when I saw this because I keep forgetting you aren't a vibrant 21 year old such as myself. Thanks for sharing.
ReplyDeleteWow! Now you really inspire me....you inspired me before but this post really makes me admire you x 10! Motherhood, career, and blogging are all things I'm trying to manage! Thanks for this post! God bless!
ReplyDeleteYour daughter is adorable. :) Thanks for introducing us to her. I know you will have some great tips for the mothers out there. I don't have any kids yet but I hope to in the near future. I think 13 is a good age to start straightening.
ReplyDeleteIt makes me melt to think what a wonderful role model she has to look to , a picture of natural beauty, self acceptance, spiritual health and total well being! All Moms teach their daughter's by example and you do that successfully for all of us with every post!
ReplyDeleteTo press or not to press? and at what age? This is relative for everyone. The overall goal of is to teach our children the value of individuality through creative expression while guiding them to realize their beauty is intangible and not defined by their aesthetics or other superficialities. To instill this is a major gift to our kids, and is our responsibility to lead by example ladies. :)
Thanks for the continued inspiration MTM!
Oh wow lol I who would have thunk it! I was consoling myself the other day saying 'oh well MopTop Maven is still young and has no responsibilities so she can shop and travel and eat well"! Well now what is my excuse!!!? You have an adorrable girl and and she looks really tall! Joy! Well you got me NEEDING to get up and do something. Namaste
ReplyDeleteGeez! I had no idea you had a 9-year old. You look GREAT! I read (and watch) quietly, and your blog is the FIRST that I recommend to friends who want inspiration. Thanks for doing it, and doing it well :)
ReplyDeleteYour daughter's hair is so beautiful! Wish I had hair like that!
ReplyDeletebeautiful child, didn't know you were a mommy. I never pressed or relaxed my hair, its just not done in my culture. My hair texture is like your daughter, so mom just braided it in different style and took care of it until I was 13 and refused anyone touching my hair other than me.
ReplyDeleteps. why do ppl have to ask about this cute kid's race boggles the mind....I guess America's obsession with color and race has yet to disappear.
Your daughter is a doll! I had no idea you are a Mommy! I have 11 yr old who will be 12 this month. I pressed her hair around 8 or 9 for a ballet recital. She wanted her wavy hair straightened. I used a electrical hot comb so that I could monitor the heat. Your daughter's hair is a totally different texture so I would be skeptical to put heat on it at this age. You are a hair guru so I'm sure u would be take the necessary steps to prevent and avoid any heat damage. Good Luck
ReplyDeleteShe's beautiful and definitely takes after her mother!
ReplyDeleteYour daughter is gorgeous! My daughters hair is the same texture as your daughters but tighter curls (shes chilean, venezuelan & bahamian). The first time my daughters hair was straight she was 5! Her spanish babysitter(older lady) straightened it but she also did a trim so there was a purpose behind it but my daughter loved it so much she bugs me all the time but i hold out telling her to just wait. I love her curly hair. She has her chilean grandmothers exact hair type. So im grateful for her advice
ReplyDeletegorgeous face and hair just like mommy.
ReplyDeleteSimply GORG!
ReplyDeleteShe is too precious.
ReplyDeleteWow, she is aboslutely beautiful like her Mummy.
ReplyDeleteI wouldnt even mention pressing hair until it becomes something Brianna pesters for (if at all) - he hair is so gorgeous, i'd want to leave it as it is as much as possible, its gorgeous.
It helps she is around someone who embraces natural hair also.
I notice you mentioned her father is Irish, so she has curls from from both Gene Pools possible :-)
Your daughter is beautiful! Besides the big obvious difference she has all of your facial features.
ReplyDeleteNo children here but i would wait as long a possible before using any straightening methods. Eventually as a teenager she may want to experiment and that's fine. I think she needs to learn to love her hair/skin on her own but her hair is beautiful the way it is.
My question to you now, how the hell do you have time to blog, work, socialize and do all of this arts& crafts, elaborate meals and 10hr hair regimens WITH a child??!!!??!!
(this is not a rhetorical question lol i really want to know)
My daughter is almost 9. Pressing is reserved for special occasions. I think the last time was before she started kindergarten when she was 5.
ReplyDeleteI did texturize her hair when she was 6 because I was having problems managing her hair. I have since transitioned her hair and big chopped this spring so she's 100% natural again and I've learned a lot about working with her hair.
She would like to wear it straight sometimes but I guess I'm old school like my mom. I hardly wore my hair straight before the age of 10. It was reserved for holidays. So I would say there's no reason to rush pressing.
Aww she's gorgeous!
ReplyDeleteAs for the appropriate age for getting pressings, that's a tough one. I started getting my hair pressed when I was maybe in the 1st or 2nd grade, probably before that. My hair, pre-relaxed, was super long and super duper thick, so pressing definitely helped my mom deal with styling my hair alot better. Plus, I'm sure there weren't as many resources for natural hair care and styling. I started getting relaxers around my 6th grade year. Was definitely not my decision lol
I think that a pressing every once in a while isn't too bad, I suppose it also depends on the texture of the child's hair.
Your daughter is gorgeous. Like many of your other readers, I had no idea you had a little one.
ReplyDeleteBeautiful daughter! And we share the same name!
ReplyDeleteBlessings Lady!
Thank you for sharing. To echo earlier comments she is incredibly beautiful. Please let me know when you'll do a posting on how you have enough energy to do what you do. Blogger/Mom/etc.etc. I find myself overwhelmed just taking care of me! BTW, I have tried the Flax-Smoothies-LUV!
ReplyDeleteOh and I don't have children so not sure about when to press, but I can attest to the damage heat styling can do to one's natural curl pattern.
Thank you for the inspiration
Awww...She looks just like you! Too Cute!
ReplyDeleteI hope to have a daughter who looks like me too!
I think its important that she learn how to take care of her natural hair before using heat or else bad things might happen. I remember when I started getting my hair pressed I would play with it all day. And as naturals we no that is no bueno.
ReplyDeleteDefinitely no rush maybe like an 8th grade graduation lol.
I'm in your boat though my daughter is mixed (only 8months) but her hair I can tell will be very curly. I'm black but are textures are different, I have tighter curls and waves. What do you suggest I do for her hair now she has a ton. its already going down her back!!
Tell you the truth I did not know what pressing hair was until I got to an age where I understood. I remember having my hair pressed at a young age for attendance to a wedding, family reunion, or just to have my hair done because my mom was in the shop having her hair did. I do remember that the first time I was asked, I said no. haha Then they would do my hair in little girl styles with pig tails or those Shirley Temple curls. I do think it is best to teach a child to value their natural hair and not get really caught up about wearing straight hair and the stigma around straight hair. Sometimes it becomes hard as young children to not want straight hair if you feel or hear others say natural hair is too nappy. Plus children like to do what their peers are doing with styles.
ReplyDeleteI did not know you had a daughter. She is really pretty with beautiful natural hair. Has she wanted mommy to press her hair?
beautiful child! looks just like you...as far as pressing hair...i agree with you..why should straight hair be reserved for "secial occasions"? that sounds like a bad message to me..her hair is beautiful as is...girl..i tip my hat off to you..you deal with your thick,long, amazing hair..aaaaaannnd her??!!!! AYE DIOS MIO!!! ..and who cares about the child's race..she's human..damn
ReplyDeleteAww lil mama is soooo gorgeous Nikole!! My mom didnt allow me to press my hair until I was about 13/14 and she never permed my hair when I was a kid. When I was of age to make my own decision I chose never to perm....so being in the same position as your daughter she'll thank when she gets old...just like how I thank my mom for never lacing my hair with perm!!! You rock!
ReplyDeleteBtw my 11 yr old niece is named brianna...lol
ReplyDeleteyou 2 are twins! her and her hair are beautiful...with all that length, i would try to hold out on straightening it, mainly because it would take too long lol! but i definitely wouldnt press it, maybe a rollerset/blowout/light flat iron... i dont think it would take much heat to get it straight.
ReplyDeleteShe is pretty. congrats motherhood is a blessing. i agree on waiting til shes a teen to flat iron her hair
ReplyDeleteI didn't know you were MARRIED.
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